Learning--The beginning!!!

Life is the biggest school of Learning!!!
I have seen no matter how old we are we learn each day and each moment..
And at any point in life when we retrospect and watch the path we took, we wonder at all those gray areas where we needed even more of learning and also those areas which have made us proud of ourselves on the result of it.
Yes it is the beginning to perfection!
Never to forget, it is an art that each one of us embibe.
Name an activity and without learning we cannot master it..
However, the process of learning is a deep pain :-) I understand how we want to escape from the discipline associated with it..
I look at it in this way, "What if am the only human in this world to tackle this situation without any choice?" Therefore.. "I'd better learn it.."
And then comes the moment when the learning is completed, well thats the most awaiting moment to watch the art come to a decent state..
And I must say, that makes me feel real good about my progress!!
Every learning will happen in its own sweet time, its the time when the urge to make it happen comes right away from you..(Watch it, you might just be in that phase!!)
And when it does, there's no looking back..
Hence, come whatever challenge your way, face it and learn from it as much as you can..with an attitude that you are bigger than the challenge and you can do it..Atleast the attempt will not disappoint you!
And remember, whatever you have learnt will remain with you, if something doesnt teach you, even that is a learning
Therefore learn everything every moment..Its never gonna go waste..
Happy Learning to all of you!!!

Love and Hate!!!

Two different sounds and words and both are un-related to eachother. Which is stronger..I'd say both!We know what is love and what a healing it can tender to the one in need of it, also what hatred can do; not to others but to one's ownself..

"Love your enemies and do good to those that hate you" Loving someone is easy, but hating someone?? Right!! isnt easy..Love touches you each day and it is the same gift without which living becomes purpose less..But then, how does love occur? Love in my opinion does not occur in some form, it can be experienced in every simple gestures of life, getures like helping, express a smile share the cheer, spread the peace, express gratitude, forgive, say soothing words to those in pain and so on and on. Again, why does anyone express such gestures, I mean what makes someone to manifest these gestures so effortlessly in day to day life? Observe that these expressions do not happen because someone asks you to do so.

Let me tell you it happens naturally because of the goodness of your heart. And this goodness embibes in you because you simply have this abundant love in the treasure of your heart!! You are right!! It happens beacause of who you are and the whole point revolves around the learning and the conditioning you have received in many ways!It is absolutely true when the old scriputure says on what love is: http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=53&chapter=13&version=31

This can come true only when you keep the term, "Expectation" out of love. When expectations come into picture, both success and failure of living upto the same also become equally important. The worst one is however, the failure of keeping up the expectations that easily triggers the argument..This is the argument that leads into "Hate".. An emotion, an addiction, a Self destructive mission.I did say self destructive mission because in the course of hating someone you ply on harming the one you hate, you tend to loose your energy, health and hurt yourself deeply.Anger , disappointment, rejection are the elements that nurture this emotion. The deeper it enters you, the more you are disturbed!
And the state of helplessness to control the situation makes it even more miserable.Lets not confuse that hatredness also comes from the abundance of the goodness of the heart, this is only because when the expectations from the other person are not met. Another interesting fact of this emotion is, its quite easy to hate the ones you love the most!As we start loving someone, we forget about love and start expecting from them, then it is the expectation that drives love but as it is love in its whole form is the opposite of the same and yea, love is slowly going into the hiding place.Its crystal clear that Love and Hate are not the opposites but they are not related at all..
Two are different emotions with different energies and different motives.What should be one's choice to pick up and live with, is entirely depending on the weight of the moment and the circumstance that is propelling it.
Understanding each emotion carefully, will give the knowledge to make a stand and go for the choice. Everyone wants to love and be loved, because with love comes joy and peace, trust me none would want to ruin it. At the same time none of us would be happy and at ease if we hate somone intentionally. Everyone wants to overcome it, no matter how fresh the state is.In overcoming it you either reconcile with the one or will start to ignore the person/behaviour. However, one thing should be specifically clear, that you've got your facts right, imagine what a sad state it would be, when you have caused a serious damage to a relationship in the process with wrong or improper knowledge about the person!
Certainly! It is not an easy affair to hate someone! Many consequenses, many heartbreaks, many repercussions and much more trauma are involved!
But..the moment of reconcilation with the person you hate and the tears of joy and forgiveness that flow from your heart must say is amazing..I am sure that each of us know the taste of it and have enjoyed that moment of finding the lost one back in our lives..
It is indeed wonderful to watch the hate changing, rather the expectations becoming into only Love and only love that rules the moment..
Therefore, Life is all about living each moment to the fullest..
And to live, love without expecting but when you hate come back to terms and enjoy the sweetness of that friendship again..
Well thats the human side of it and none can escape it acept both the energies and enjoy Life!!

Live and let live!!!

Why the old institution a powerful one!!

Yet another topic to amuse me!

Marriage!!

In India, if you are not married before you cross 30 then people consider that something is terribly wrong with you! Families incite their children to think about it as soon as they are settled and stabilised in their occupation. The prompting and the preparation begins all the more faster for girls comparatively. And then things somehow take shape to begin the institution!

Later on, it is even more interesting to see someone who never was ready for a tie up, will never be ready to leave their spouse even for a single moment after it.

However, my topic of interest is the question "WHY?" one has to get married?

Have seen many folks who are happily married and are in the line of hierarchy, but how sure are they for "What made them to decide rather, zero down on one person for life". Ofourse there are some broken relationships, though its a related topic but not to ponder upon at the moment.

Alright then! Back to the question WHY does anyone get married, the age old Scripture says, "The LORD saw that the man was alone in the garden and had no companion , So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man" (No offense meant on the religion).

Humm, that is true.. Like told by my friends, Companionship is the reason that makes the institution. Does that mean, companions aren't enough to lead a life, why marry the opposite sex? Why does this one person becomes so special and dear? So dear that he/she becomes the center of universe. Well that's tricky to answer.

However, in my opinion two people decide to spend the rest of their lives because of the comfort factor they share. (No infatuation here coz infatuation is clearly momentary and you realise it sooner)

The moment one understands the comfort level, it is all the more easy to win the trust of eachother. This is the beginning of the institution. And then comes into the picture of knowing eachother to the core, this becomes important to understand that you can manage to live with this person easily, that confidence is built. By the observation of each gesture of the spouse, both understand the values and the philosphy each one holds, this develops the respect. With this respect comes intelligence to react accordingly for eachother's moves. And when there is any dispute, it is the same intelligence that helps eachother to cling on. It then becomes effortless for eachother to be natural without any formalities and pretence. Thats the freedom that slowly starts its magic between the two, and then they know they are no more two different people but one soul separated physically!

Did I miss something?? You are right! you wondering whatever happend to the "Love" factor.

Love is the sole reason that enables the two differnt people to become one soul!

Does all this happen before the wedding? Not so, it is a practise that happens each and every day. Understand, you are already married to the person; the moment your heart says "Bingo!! go for it" You wondering if it really happens, trust me it does!!

And then your spouse is no more a person but a part of you, he/she becomes a habit that you start enjoying each day believing , "Yes, I can count upon this one for whatsoever situation I come across" this slowly brings in that peace and settlement in one's life that you are at ease with everything and each passing day!

Wow! Isn't it really overwhelming to know?

It indeed is a wonderful relation to enjoy on earth..The real essence of it is when you start living it as you display great companionship!

Thats true, true friends are meant for life and so are the people bonded in marriage, if there's no friendship then it becomes really un-inspiring. (No am not talking about the Kuch kuch hota hai line). This is my experience with my soulmate..

And yes I must say I am blessed to have him as my best friend and The better half! (GOD bless).

Ha, yes such is the magic of the bond that blends you into the cream of life!

Therefore, one has to really try to know the taste of it! ;-)

No wonder the old institution is amazingly powerful!

Children of all ages..

It was a hot day as it is May of extreme summer in Bangalore.
Not an ideal choice for an outing in or around the town...and yet we as a team at
office planned for an outing. Humm, but yes we deserved a break from the routine..
Drove down all the way from the city to the Sarjapur road and visited the Ivy resort.
Welcomed by Lemon juice and joined by the entire team, it was amazing fun!
Started off with the ice breaker game of filling the bottles with the water being passed from one end to the other though hands..and then a game of Unbreakable Chain, this game i just loved...and then Tug of war later on Cricket..
I mean every game brought the talent within each member..
These are the same guys who are slogging in the office as though that is life and here they're having a blast!
A break is very necessary to start everything afresh ..
It was not only joy watching each one laugh, tease one another and play in the hot sun, but it was wonderful to watch how everybody just brought out the child within...
Yes, becoming a child and living is a divine experience...
No hussels, no reponsibilities, no boundaries of time, no deadlines, no targets and just be carefree!!!
Laugh at everyone and make others laugh at you, eat food and sleep loads..
How life takes us over and we start growing is splendid in its own way, but hey let it not mask the child in you..
The illness of this world and its influences does deter the child in you, but understanding that and not letting it touch you comes through by wisdom and by choice.
Think about it, one moment of living like a child is really worth it.
Chasing whims and fantasies will continue for life but why not continue to remain a child for life too??
Strange question but very apt for each of us to ponder upon!
How about breathing a sigh of satisfaction, unfold the gift of child hiding inside and let live!
Therefore, Children of all ages this is a call to all of you, spring up to your feet steal a while choose to grow young and let live!

Mother's Day!!

I am going through a journey of emotions..
What a day it is today..that has made me walk through this road of meeting such emotions,
I am only looking at mysef as an outsider and watching the flow of it very closely.
Gladness, departure, sympathy, love, despise, inacceptance and it goes on...
That which is pre-dominantly hovering is Sympathy.
Sympathy towards my grand ma..Let me remind myself, she is the lady who is equally responsible as my Mother in making me what I am...Strong willed, GOD fearing, responsible, caring, loving, possessive, stubborn and above all independant!
I always appreciated her for all these things and specially her cooking and the way she always kept herself busy in many chores..
I mentioned that she is a strong willed woman for the reason that she surrendered herself to the Almighty and went through the pain of cancer and still silently obeyed the will of the LORD and yes she survived..Not very long ago, the deadly traces of the disease sprang up and again..the same miracle she went through..Always trusting in GOD this woman, never complained of any sickness in any season throughout the year and wow..what a blessing she is to all of us in the family!

Today I go through all those memories of this great woman of my life as we step into yet another Mother's day!
A mother, a woman, a blessing, an epitomy of love and sympathy..
Today I display a gist of the same sympathy towards her..This is out of the overflow of my heart and the love that's exploding into these words..
As any other day and as my practise I missed my call from my brother Sam, he calls me again later the day and there is a nuance in his tone today.."Amulakka, why dont you take the calls on time? I have something to tell you!" I knew this is something serious by now "Jeji (Grand ma) has got a fracture in her right shoulder, It just happend in front of me, she rose from her sleep and complained that the bone is broken and said that she heard the sound of it! I took her to the Doc and the X-ray says that is cannot be fixed..It is clearly visible that the bone is dislocated.."
At such a grand age..my Jeji is going though this pain and again she wants be independant in this state too..
I remember the line of Christ saying on the cross, "My GOD my GOD why have you forsaken me?"..
It is true that I cannot take her pain or give her any relief through my words..It is understood that she has to go through this pain all by herself..I cant accept that..I miss seeing her, I despise the fact that I cant do anything about it..
It is clear am a mere human and I dont have any super power to change the circumstance..but why cant I accept it? It is love that makes me like that..It is the memory of hers thats reminding me of her over and again.. I am deeply hurt, and cannot explain what is it I want!
It is this mixed emotion I take along with myself to bed tonight..although i know the fact that I cant share this with my better half (as he is not in town)! I say a prayer to the LORD in my silence that he revives my heart and comforts my Jeji..
Staying so away from her, my heart goes out to her in love! I want a moment to grab from my memories, and go sleep next to her say my night prayer that she taught me to say before bed..
If there is a tommorow I want to listen to her voice and just cry in silence and say "Happy Mother's day Mummy" and thank GOD for the life!! Life in its fullest..

Crisis of the moment

Crisis, crisis and crisis everywhere...

Crisis of money, crisis of job, crisis of basic commodities, crisis of land, crisis of property..
The worst of all the crisis is the human crisis--crisis of love, crisis of peace crisis of reaching out, crisis of hunger, crisis of gentle touch, crisis of life and crisis of death...
What is the need of the hour?
What is it that makes human?
Is Crisis the dominating factor of life or are we weak enough to make our stand against it?
I have observed over the time that, when it is all cream and joy around..It's never seen as big as the trouble which is often larger than life..
Life still continues, day begins and breaks, we sulk for sometime and forget about it..
Thats right Moving on in life is the crucial choice one has to make..

But what about the weight of the moment of crisis?
It ain't easy!! And certainly not to forget the traces that probably would be left behind
Let me make my opinion, everyone in this world is in crisis..No matter you are a prince or a peasant..crisis is in your plate of some form..
But lets face it...We know it is tough, harder to cross the ocean..
Mere escaping from the situation and running away from it will not solve it, but it only will keep it growing more and more which will make you find a way to wind it up!

And Yes! The beauty of the crisis is coming out of it stronger...
Every crisis has its own purpose, the purpose is only to flavor the strength you hold within you, no wonder..
Crisis has its own way of bringing the high immense of perseverance to bring in that strength. This can happen only and only when you keenly look into it, observe it, ponder over it and then you appreciate it!
Lets not complain what we do not have, beyond everything else we have life..
Perhaps this is a lesson I want to teach myself time and again !
How is it happening, what do i do, well let me recall all the crisis I went through..and again move on with the strength and the learning I attained !

No pain is stronger than the pain of not attempting to accept it!